Widen OOM_EXCEPTION to AcceleratorError form (#12835)

Pytorch only filters for OOMs in its own allocators however there are
paths that can OOM on allocators made outside the pytorch allocators.
These manifest as an AllocatorError as pytorch does not have universal
error translation to its OOM type on exception. Handle it. A log I have
for this also shows a double report of the error async, so call the
async discarder to cleanup and make these OOMs look like OOMs.

comfy/ldm/modules/sub_quadratic_attention.py

@@ -169,7 +169,8 @@ def _get_attention_scores_no_kv_chunking(
     try:
         attn_probs = attn_scores.softmax(dim=-1)
         del attn_scores
-    except model_management.OOM_EXCEPTION:
+    except Exception as e:
+        model_management.raise_non_oom(e)
         logging.warning("ran out of memory while running softmax in  _get_attention_scores_no_kv_chunking, trying slower in place softmax instead")
         attn_scores -= attn_scores.max(dim=-1, keepdim=True).values # noqa: F821 attn_scores is not defined
         torch.exp(attn_scores, out=attn_scores)