* flux: math: Use _addcmul to avoid expensive VRAM intermediate
The rope process can be the VRAM peak and this intermediate
for the addition result before releasing the original can OOM.
addcmul_ it.
* wan: Delete the self attention before cross attention
This saves VRAM when the cross attention and FFN are in play as the
VRAM peak.
* flux: Do the xq and xk ropes one at a time
This was doing independendent interleaved tensor math on the q and k
tensors, leading to the holding of more than the minimum intermediates
in VRAM. On a bad day, it would VRAM OOM on xk intermediates.
Do everything q and then everything k, so torch can garbage collect
all of qs intermediates before k allocates its intermediates.
This reduces peak VRAM usage for some WAN2.2 inferences (at least).
* wan: Optimize qkv intermediates on attention
As commented. The former logic computed independent pieces of QKV in
parallel which help more inference intermediates in VRAM spiking
VRAM usage. Fully roping Q and garbage collecting the intermediates
before touching K reduces the peak inference VRAM usage.